friends..

I realized that I've known some of my current "friends" since I was in primary school or even kindergarten.
but i dont know all of them as well as i want to.
i dont hang out with them as much as I want to as well.

to be truthful, i dont have a lot of people whom i can truly call "friends" anymore. (other than thewanderer...)
i was close to a few of them but i now live much farther away, ever since i got married and theson was born. and some of them moved away....
and since we dont hang out much, we kinda drifted apart.
Sad, I know… i need to get out more.

no more excuses.
no ones fault but my own.
need to find time….

back to school

2weeks away from kindy did not do well for theson as he refuses to go to school.
Theson will start crying once we start putting on his uniform and continuously cry/whine (go home, go auntie house) all the way to school and even once we leave him in the class room and exit the room, we can still hear him cry. he actually clung to thewife's leg at one time.
And he refuses to use the toilet in the school. And he refuses to drink his water. Sigh.

At least today he was slightly better. He was only a bit whiny at home and was much better at school as we told him if he did did not cry, drank his water and went to toilet, we’ld take him to tesco and get icecream at McD.
Yaya.. Bribery works ok….!! hopefully...


Music class was different though, he was more than willing to go last saturday and he’s improved a lot since the last time he was there
The good:
He loves to sing. And can do some of the songs and actions by himself.

The not so good:
He cant focus and keeps playing with the window and his music books. Looks out the window and says “want to go shopping” out LOUD…(I notice all the girls in the class are better focused than the boys.)
He’s always looking at other people and wont follow the teachers actions during songtime.
The class's timing sucks a it clashes with his nap time and sometimens he gets very moody.
(what do you expect? hes a 3yr old..!! I need more patience.)


anyway, last saturday, since everyone was doing so well, the teacher gave them all an icecream treat which the son thoroughly enjoyed. he ate 2/3 of the icecream and hardly wanted to share with me.
:-)

finally, a wedding i can go to.....

Went for a wedding 2weeks ago. It was one of my ex-school/scout mates getting married. Hes been living in the UK the past few years and came back to the country to get married. Thewife and theson sat it out as theson was still recovering from him bout of sickness.The food was quite good and the company was ok.
Thewanderer was the best man (3rd time now) and he was also sitting in the same table.The table seats 10 but there were only 5 of us and 2 of them left to watch a football match 1/3 thru the wedding an only came back at the end.We ate like mad. It was an 8 course dinner and I was already stuffed at no.4.

Met a lot of old school friends and it was really good to see them again. Met some of my friends parents and it was good to see them as well.

surprise, surprise, surprise...

The day that we have feared for years has finally come. We had to admit theson to the hospital. You know, we actually survived 3years without staying over at the hospital.
Theson still had fever even after 5days with medication and his cough was not improving and he was not eating much.
The doc did a blood test and had to put in an IV line in theson’s left hand. Heart wrenching to see him struggling and screaming in pain. He even said “Papa take out” and it just broke my heart. Sigh…
The doc put him on a course of meds and antibiotics as well. Plus physio to get his phlegm out and a nebulizer session every 3hourly to clear his lungs. All of us did not get much sleep that 1st night at the hospital. And the nurse had to put in a suppository at night as his fever was still high. Pity theson as he’s tired out from crying all the time. He now has a phobia of nurses and hospitals. Hes’ got no problems with oral medication though and by the last day he was holding the nebulizer by himself.
thewife was the most tired of all across the 4days, as theson was stuck to her like glue.

He lost quite a bit weight as he was surviving only on water, milk and whipped potato. he did not want to eat anything else. can see his ribcage now.
food was provided for breakfast, lunch, tea and dinner but only breakfast was really edible. the hospital serves only a vegetarian diet and it dont taste that good eventhough its healthy. breakfast is normally finished as i like the oatmeal and hospital-baked bread.
thewife and me survived on Starbucks latte, 7-11 Noodles, coke, snacks, burger from Kfc/mcd, rojak and hawker food. but i actually did not have appetite to eat. made only 1 trip back home to replenish clothes and do laundry.

we had a private room with a tv and it wasnt so bad. thewife slept on the same bed as theson while i had to make do with a fold out chair/bed. very, very, very uncomfortable and cold as hell in that room even with the temp adjusted.

theson had a few visitor and he got a new turtle plush toy, a batman plush toy and some "bubble blowers".
i'm starting to cough and can feel the phlegm, Head feels very heavy.

theson's fever broke on the 2nd or 3rd day at the hospital.
We went in on Friday noon and left on Monday noon. So we spent a total of 4days at the hospital. dont ever want to do that again.
one thing good though was the time spent with thewife and theson.
once we got out of the hospital, we sent theson to the babysitter and we went home to sleep and clean the house.
both of us were very very very tired....

another surprise....aka Sick again.

Theson was sick again, 2days after his mums birthday.
Vomiting with fever. Vomited 4x across 2 days already.
Believed he caught a bug from his cousin when we were at thewifes mums place the Sunday after her birthday (2sundays ago).
Took him to the hospital on monday and got the shock of our lives. Our pediatrician has left for a 2yr trip to Australia… WTF?
Luckily there are 2 more doctors to choose from.
Had to put in a suppository as he was still vomiting. Once we told him what we were going to do, he backed away from us, started shaking his head and saying “no” in 3 languages.
His temp kept going up and down and at one point we sponged his body to keep his fever at bay.

surprise....!!!!!!!!!

Celebrated thewife’s birthday on jan6.
I forgot to buy her a card but I saved the day by creating a card the night before
i'm quite creative under pressure.. and i think she liked it.

Thewife’s friends dropped by at 930pm to give her a surprise party with cake and fried chicken.
(so i didnt have to buy cake....:-)
she looked a bit sad that she did not get to cut a birthday cake and i was apologising saying that i forgot to buy one..
She suspected nothing and as her friend stood by the door and said " i need your help"
(she was quite convincing and even i wanted to help her...),
then everybody else jumped out into the stairway and screamed "surprise"...
(i think my neighbours woke up :-P )
anyway, the look on thewifes face was what you would call "a kodak moment".
thanks everybody for a good birthday...

day2 at the nursery

- theson has 2 new red color kindy uniforms
- he made his 1st art project today, sticking tiny triangles to form an apple.. thewife stuck it on the white board
- his kindy books scare me... the matl looks like its for a 6yr old and hes just 3...

society sucks...

to be truthful, i did not want to send theson to a kindergarten so early..
i remember only starting kindy when i was 5 or 6 only.
these days parents send their kid to school at 2 or earlier and and the expectation on the kid and teacher is higher. do better in school, more "A"s, top of the class....

do you know there is tuition for kindergarden these days? plus tons of homework?
arent we stressing out our kids unnecessarily?
the message i see here is, "keep up or be left behind"...
sigh...

not sure if kids have time to play anymore...
progress??? or loss of childhood?

i sigh for theson

goodbye2006, allo 2007

-theson 3rd birthday: party #2 was a success with my family at a seafood restaurant. mantis prawn was not so good though.
-the thing at the office that i didnt want to blow up in my face really did blow up in my face. damage control was a real pain across multiple sites. kept me busy for a good 3weeks.
-The new mall opened near the factory and a lot of new restaurants opened. we’ve been to TGIF at least 3 times already.
-Thewanderer will be back from UK for good next year
-We paid over 1k for allergy testing for theson and me. dust is the main factor.
-I had to go see a dietician who turned out to be my sisters classmate whose sister I also sorta know.

-Xmas was uneventful. had lunch with my family and invited thewifes family over for dinner.
-Bought thewife a rurouni kenshin novel for xmas
-Thewife bought me 2 very nice adidas shirts
-We bought my sis a starbuck coffee mug
-Got a dvd player for my folks.
-Theson got tons of toys including a drum set which I reluctantly bought.
-BEC xmas caroling
-BEC xmas party, thewife made spaghetti which was a hit.

-Finished watching BSG s3
-Internet slowdown due to earthquake in Taiwan. Will suck for 3weeks or more.
-visited my godmother. everyone is getting old.

hello 2007
-my folks will be down in the capital for 3weeks to visit friends.
-theson started nursery school.

day1 at the nursery

thewife and i have been talking about sending theson to nursery school and finally we decided on one quite close to the office and to the babysitter's house. well, 10minutes away, so close enough..
we expect to thebabysitter to take a paycut since theson will be there only for 1/2 the day. still in negotiation as thebabysitter does not agree. :-P

school fees are like 0.8k for registration and 200 a month for 1/2 day care. jeeez....
how would i send my kids to school if i was poor? are there kindergarten for poor kids?.. sheesh..
anyway, when we sent him there on the 1st day, he did not cry and was putting up quite a brave front actually... and i'm worried that he normally keeps his feelings pent up.. and he'll start scratching due to the stress related..
i believe thewife should be more worried than me, actually. (she just cant let go so fast...)
we're just worried that he can't cope.

thewife was there for the whole duration and she had some comments
-parents shud not name their kids oscar or lester
-lots of kids exhibiting crocodile tears and tantrums. thewife was shocked actually.
-kids <3yrs shud not be sent to school as they are too young. she said they were just lazing around aimlessly.
-hope theson will no tbe bullied
-majority of kids in theson's class seem "bigger". believe this is due to they are 3 going on 4 while the son is 2 going on 3..
-he did not pee for 3hours and finally wet his pants. think he still getting used to his new surroundings. (taught him to tell his teacher if he wants to go to the toilet. hope it works..)